The best dating sites for shy people and introverts

eharmony's membership pool consists of singles who reside in more than 200 countries worldwide.

eharmony uses a compatibility matching system that pairs relationship hopefuls based on 29 different dimensions of compatibility. To get started, just fill out the Relationship Questionnaire, and once you're confirmed as legit, the website will start sending you your compatible matches. It seems to work because eharmony has impressive success rates.

eharmony has a feature called RelyID that helps verify the information provided by other members, like their name, city, and age. You know what that means? No catfishing. Also, your profile is only visible to the people who are a good match for you, so the experience can help to narrow your potentials down to only those who are actually a good fit. Those who have signed up to RelyID will have a badge on their profile, letting you know they are for real. Not everyone using the site will have verified their ID though.

There's also Guided Communication, a four-step program of communication with your matches. Basically, its a series of questions that help to break the ice. If that doesn't work, the site also offers free dating advice. 

In short, this site is probably filled with your neighbours, old colleagues, new colleagues, and more. Match is pretty popular with members with diverse backgrounds who share a few common goals: to meet other singles, find dates, form romantic relationships, and meet life partners. 

Match is pretty much an open dating service. There's absolutely no limit to who you connect with, or how often. After you set your dating criteria, the site will display possible matches. You can tweak or fine-tune the results as you wish. 

Large crowds can be scary, but Match regularly hosts meet-up events where you can create genuine relationships over time. If you enjoy browsing anonymously, there's a feature called Incognito Mode that allows you to view profiles without the other person knowing. 

EliteSingles says its users are mainly educated, relatively affluent, adults between the ages of 30 and 55 who are in search of long-term commitment. The site breakdown by gender works out to be 56% women and 44% men with more than 170,000 users. 

In order to find like-minded matches, EliteSingles has you take an in-depth personality test. The test will evaluate you on your level of openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Based on the results, the smart profiling can send you three to seven compatible matches every day. 

Since the personality test can identify the traits that really make you who you are, the dating service can match you with exactly the type of personality you'd be most compatible with. The extensive personality testing leads to interesting conversation starters and it's easier to find people you'll have things in common with. You can even identify yourself as an introvert.

A community for the millions of single, divorced, or widowed men and women aged over 50. Lumen has 200,000 registered users in the UK, with 1 million registered users globally.

Lumen is an app-only dating platform dedicated to the over-50s. The site launched in September 2018, and puts an emphasis on quality conversation, with zero tolerance for ageism. To sign up, all you need to do is download the app on your phone, complete the registration process, add a good-quality photo, and start exploring potential matches. 

Lumen aims to provide a safe, welcoming, and age appropriate community with a focus on conversation and real connections. The focus on safety and security is great for nervous introverts.